We sat down. I'm not sure how we even got on the subject, but after my nerves calmed down and I had prayed before hand, it really wasn't that bad. He made some faces here and there and listened intently and understood the concepts, pics I drew, asked intelligent questions...it went really well. He told me he hadn't heard it all before, but some of the words he had heard and didn't know what they meant. It took about 45 minutes and at the end, he said, "So...you and dad did that?" I said yes. But the whole convo I made sure not to crack jokes, or make him embarrassed, using the proper terms for body parts and explaining the act of sex and what changes happen to your body as all part of God's plan. I explained how it's designed within the constraints of marriage, and by taking matters into your own hands, it discounts God's design, and you miss out on what he intended for you, and takes away from the plan he has for who you do it with. I explained how the temptation can be more than you can bear, and it takes someone very strong to overcome it. We talked about disease, pregnancy, etc., and all in all he seemed to understand it pretty well, all followed up with, "I don't ever want to do any of that." I'll remind him of that when he's 16. HA!
Last night while studying for the bible study with my YL girls, I studied Proverbs 5. It talks about sexual immorality, within marriage, but as I found all my study materials, it showed that it also related to going against what God has planned for you by not waiting. For the first time I understood adultery on a completely different level. If God designed and sanctified the covenant of marriage, isn't it then adultery to go outside of the constraints of marriage, i.e. before you are married? Isn't it adultery if you compromise your purity in waiting for the one he has planned for you to love, within the commitment of marriage? Don't you wish Solomon had been around to explain it this way to you when you were a teenager? I do. It's going to be interesting tonight with the girls, I'm sure.
Verses to Ponder: Proverbs 5
My son, pay attention to my wisdom, listen well to my words of insight, that you may maintain discretion and your lips may preserve knowledge. For the lips of an adulteress drip honey, and her speech is smoother than oil; but in the end she is bitter as gall, sharp as a double-edged sword. Her feet go down to death; her steps lead straight to the grave. She gives no thought to the way of life; her paths are crooked, but she knows it not. Now then, my sons, listen to me; do not turn aside from what I say. Keep to a path far from her, do not go near the door of her house, lest you give your best strength to others and your year to one who is cruel, lest strangers feast on your wealth and your toil enrich another man's house. At the end of your life you will groan, when your flesh and body are spent. You will say, "How I hated discipline! How my heart spurned correction! I would not obey my teachers or listen to my instructors. I have come to the brink of utter ruin in the midst of the whole assembly." Drink water from your own cistern, running water from your own well. Should your springs overflow in the streets, your streams of water in the public squares? Let them be yours alone, never to be shared with strangers. May your fountain be blessed, and may you rejoice in the wife of your youth. A loving doe, a graceful deer - may her breasts satisfy you always, may you ever be captivated by her love. Why be captivated, my son, by an adulteress? Why embrace the bosom of another man's wife? For a man's ways are in full view of the Lord, and he examines all his paths. The evil deeds of a wicked man ensnare him; the cords of his sin hold him fast. He will die for lack of discipline, led astray by his own great folly.
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